My name is Sue and I am a reunited adoptee, 1980, and listowner for PAFind.
PAFind is a mailing list for people separated by adoption in Pennsylvania who are searching for lost family members.
This forum is private and intended to provide search help, support, ideas, and information pertaining to adoption, legislation, and search. Members must be over 18 and understand that they alone are responsible for their searches. At the end of a search, the reunion acceptance rate is reported to be about 95%, assuming respect and caution are utilized. Despite this, please understand that YOU assume all liability associated with your search. Neither the list owner nor the list members assume this. You're an adult and accept this responsibility if you want to join. Our members are very cool and helpful people and we want to keep this a safe and friendly environment so people can speak their hearts without fear.
If you have not been on a mailing list before, you should know that you will receive mail- currently it runs at about 10 to 30 pieces daily (unless you select "digest" where the day's mail is all put into one big email). It will be from people sharing experiences, asking for help, celebrating a reunion, passing along updates, educating us on legislation that affects those in adoption, and asking for legwork in a place where they cannot get to personally. You are at liberty to read, delete, or respond to what you read. If you have a heart, take a second and write to that person having a lousy day with their search, write a private congratulatory note to the person who just found, or go do some searching for that person who just posted that they found a NAME to search with. And of course, you can send your questions or feelings to the listmembers and see what responses you get as well.
You agree as a member that all information and messages remain confidential and that you will not use list members' addresses for any other purpose than what they request. Anyone found to be soliciting list members will be promptly unsubscribed. Please let me know if you have any problem messages, and send them to me, with the complete header intact.
This is a nice place. No flaming is allowed. If by some rare chance things get nasty or personal, take it off the list and write privately. There is no "NAR" (non-adoption-related) content on the list. Everything posted must relate to adoption, so no matter how kind your intentions, please do not send virus warnings, jokes, inspirational messages or the like. Feel free to send such material privately to the friends you make. And since viruses can be easily transmitted, no attachments may be used in list mail.
Subscriptions will not be accepted from people who are known trouble-makers from other lists, people who do not fill out the form below honestly and completely, people who do not have a genuine interest in PA, and people who come on the list apparently just to promote their own websites or agendas or political causes. Sorry to seem tough, but this is for the protection of our listmembers. Anyone perceived to be doing any of this will be unsubscribed.
If you are uncomfortable will any of these rules or with the information below to subscribe, please note two things: 1) Whether you join the list or not, there is ample advice about searching in PA on the Pennsylvania Adoption Search Menu and the Adoption Message Board of PA. 2) This forum is private and run by one volunteer for over 200 very sweet members, and the list owner can and will use personal discretion. We have all worked too hard together to put up with distractions. We have searches to do! :-)
The information you send below is seen privately by only me and is stored in an offline database. This is primarily intended as reference in the event of a possible match. People change email addresses like underwear! Here's hoping we find another match!
Since its inception in June of 1998, PAFind has seen over 100 reunions happen, and while we cannot possibly take credit as the sole force for all of them, it does seem that the info and encouragement offered plus your own steam help things along quite a bit. Hopefully your reunion is coming soon too. It is pretty consistent that people seek answers and closure even if the results are not textbook-happy. My own reunion had mixed results but there is none of it I would trade because answers can bring peace. If you are ready for any kind of conclusion, then you may be ready to search. If so, we'd be glad to have you with us.
If you understand and agree to the above, here's how to subscribe.
Subscribing is a 2-step process. The first part gets you signed up with Onelist, our list distributor. (Your info here is private too. Onelist is how we get our list mail. When you send something to our list's address, the robot there distributes it to all listmembers.) The second part, the form below, tells me you have done the first step and your info is ready to go.
FIRST - Go the Onelist signup page for PAFind. Select "Subscribe to this list" and read and follow the instructions. Then come back here (bookmark this page) to do step 2.
SECOND - Please fill out the form below for our private database. When you do this, I'll be notified that you are all set and if approved, your subscription should begin within a week. This process used to be done all by email but due to demand a faster and easier way had to be implemented- hope you find this easy too.
Please fill this out only after you have completed the first step of registering with Onelist above. By completing this, you agree to the above rules to be nice etc :-)